I have just finished reading a phenomenal book that will revolutionize our ability to live fulfilling lives. While I realize that’s a bold statement, it actually seems like an understatement to me.
Amy Johnson’s new book, “The Little Book of Big Change: The No-Willpower Approach to Breaking Any Habit” just came out last month. Amy describes both the spiritual and scientific foundation of habits in a clear, easy to understand and compelling way.
The book addresses both behavioral habits like gambling, lashing out at a loved one and overeating as well as thought-based habits like fear of heights, thinking others are judging us and thinking something bad is going to happen.
She points out that when we’re frustrated about yet again returning to a habit, we are not self-sabotaging, but rather attempting to take care of ourselves. It’s our best effort at self-love in that moment.
She then guides us through seeing that all of this is an innocent misunderstanding. The more we become aware that all habits come from thought, we develop the ability to pause before acting on the thought or continuing with more thinking about the thoughts.
As we pause more and more, we break down the hard-wired pathway between urge and the knee-jerk response. Oh, freedom.
If there is any habit you’d like to break, do yourself a huge favor and read this book.
If you’d like coaching support in implementing this deceptively simple approach to changing your life, I have 3 appointments available in the next week. Visit my online calendar to schedule an appointment for a Coaching Conversation:
We’ll take 30 – 40 minutes to explore if we both feel we’d be a good fit for me to serve as your coach.
I am so excited for everyone who wants to make changes to have this understanding!
3 thoughts on “How to Easily Change a Habit without Willpower. Really.”
Dianne and Ken,
Indeed, what would life be like?!? When I experience it, it’s spacious and calm. And, at the same time a bit electric. Alive with possibility. No distinction between “good” and “bad.” So undescribably wonderful. And simple.
And then lots of compassion and self-love when I’m in my habits and they haven’t entirely shifted . . .
But my habits, they’re MY HABITS, I rely on them to be there for me! What would I do without them? What would life be like if so much of my time weren’t taken up with HABITS, trance states, brainwave boredom, automatic responses, running on auto pilot. Holy Smokes, I shudder to think that’s how I navigate through my days! (I’m being facetious, but not entirely.)
What? Life could be easier?