Imagine the difference in the quality of your life in this same scenario, played out two different ways. First, the way we tend to to do and second with a clear intention for the outcome we desire. You’ve had a powerful initial conversation with a potential client and she told you she’ll get back to you by Tuesday to get started. Tuesday comes and goes and you don’t hear from her.
The “Why” life:
“Why hasn’t she called?” “Why didn’t I set a specific time with her?” “Why didn’t I tell her about ________ (you fill in the blank)?”
The “Why” life leads to making things up, taking things personally, making assumptions, second-guessing ourselves and a whole lotta needless misery.
The “What and How” life:
“Okay, she hasn’t called. What would I like? I’d like to get started working with her if that’s what she still would like to do. Okay, how would I like to proceed? It feels good to me to give her a couple of days and if I don’t hear from her by Friday, I will call her to check in and let her know I’d like to get started working with her if that’s what she still would like to do.”
The “What and How” life empowers you in knowing what you’d like and in taking action toward bringing that about! No making things up, taking things personally, making assumptions, second-guessing or needless misery.
Would you like to play with it for a week and see how it shifts your life? I’d love to hear your experience if you decide to play . . .