Conscious Choice: Who Do You Want to Be to You?

Think light and feel light.  Do not think of yourself as a small, compressed, suffering thing.  Think of yourself as graceful and expanding, no matter how unlikely it may seem at the time.”
– From the book Light on Life by B.K.S. Iyenegar

We tend to think that our happiness and success depend on outside circumstances conspiring in our favor.  Instead, a life well-lived greatly depends on the nature of the most important relationship in each of our lives.  Our relationships with ourselves.

The lens through which I see myself creates my world.  Your internal dialog creates your world.  The opinion he holds of himself creates his world.  How she treats herself creates her world.

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We came into this world as pure life, pure love, graceful and expanding.  And then, our parents or early caregivers didn’t always give us the love, attention and care we needed and deserved.  And their parents hadn’t given them what they needed and deserved.  Innocent human behavior.  Yet, most of us took this lack of care to mean something was wrong with us.

Then, we went “looking for love in all the wrong places.”  We can look to our lover, spouse, partner or friend for that “missing love” or we can realize that it has never been missing.  We came into this world as pure love.  We remain pure love.

We now have the opportunity to care for ourselves, to love ourselves, to tend ourselves.  And, to drop the idea that anything is wrong with us.  We are pure love.  We can demonstrate that in any moment that we remember.

What would you love to create in your world?

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Nature as Teacher: Dissolving Problems

“When we let our problems sit for a bit, they are as likely to dissolve as be solved — because they only exist as thoughts in our mind.”
–  Michael Neill

I am blessed to live so close to historic Red Rocks Park that I consider it my big backyard.  The park encompasses 640 acres of spectacular, rare beauty with vast views of the Denver metro area.  Whenever I need a new perspective, I go to Red Rocks.  From that perch, I am reminded of the vastness of life and the insignificance of anything I consider a problem.

Awhile back while driving toward Red Rocks, I could see a huge rain storm forming.  When I parked the car, the clouds were so dark and the wind so strong that I decided not to get out.  Instead, I sat in the car and made a phone call. 

The heavy, dark, foggy clouds covered the entire metro area.  I couldn’t even see down the hill much less the expansive view of Denver.  It looked like it was raining heavily in every part of Denver and the suburbs.  But it wasn’t raining on me.  I seemed to be just above the storm.  A few minutes later, I ended my call and looked out over Denver.

The clouds were gone.  The rain was gone.  The wind was gone. In what seemed like an instant, what looked like a huge storm had simply vaporized.  All that was left were a few white wispy clouds far out toward the horizon.

What problem?!?

What problem?!?

I actually laughed out loud by myself in the car!  What a dramatic, clear message.  It looked like I had such a big problem.  I decided to wait it out and enjoy a phone conversation with my friend, Ginny, for a few minutes. And then my problem vanished!  Actual and metaphorical . . . ahhhh!

To effortless problem-solving . . .

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