Spiritual Growth: So It Just Happened to You?

For the past year and a half, I have been creating my own self-directed PhD program to take greater and greater ownership of my life and business.

I just recently fleshed out a simple, what seems minor, powerful distinction that may really serve you, too.

My coach Jeff, heard me saying to him, “my (you fill in the blank) has changed.”  He asked me how I could take greater ownership of what I had just said.

It took me a minute before I realized that what I had said is weak language, taking little ownership.  WHO changed (you fill in the blank)?  As soon as I realized I am the one who had made the change, I could feel my whole being strengthen and clarify.

This change wasn’t just “happening” to me.  I made a change.  I created my life with that change.

This so powerful to get in our bones because as we truly KNOW that we are changing our lives and businesses, then we can create more change – to whatever we choose.  If we consciously choose it, rather than passively react to whatever comes our way.

To use this distinction in your life and business, simply start by listening to your complaints and choose to create something new in the area of your complaint.  

Are you tired of always being tired?  Choose to create more vitality.  Would you like more clients?  Choose to create more clients?  A different type of client?  Clearly choose who you’d like to work with!  Would you love to be having more fun?  Create fun, be fun.  

Is it that simple?  Yes.  Easy? Maybe, maybe not.  But it does start with taking full ownership to create something better in your world.

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Spiritual Growth: Focus on What’s Important

This Saturday, I’ll attend my niece, Alisha’s graduation from UC San Diego.  As I contemplated what I want to give her to help her navigate in the world, these three powerful ways to live bubbled to the top.

Make yourself necessary to somebody.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.
– Martin Luther King Jr.

Change your thoughts and you change your world.
– Norman Vincent Peale

I am ever so grateful in this moment that we each make the world a better place in our own ways and from our own gifts, skills, strengths and interests!

Spiritual Growth: Choosing from Your Divinity or Small Self?

One of the most powerful ways to transform our lives involves cultivating a greater awareness of how we make our choices.  We can begin with a practice of asking ourselves a few questions before we choose . . .

– Am I choosing from my infinite, Divine Self or my limited, small self?

– As I choose, which option moves me in the direction of Love, and which option feeds my fear?

Spiritual growth, self improvement, creating your own reality by choosing from your divinity rather than your small self.
Consciously choose to evoke the best of you by choosing from your divinity rather than your small self.

– If I choose from my limited human self, what are the consequences of not choosing from my divinity? (Ask this with as much compassion and as little self-criticism as you can.)

– If I choose the option that comes from lack, limitation and scarcity, am I willing to accept the consequences (ideally without

Excerpted from my forthcoming book, “Thriving Work: 90 days of daily practice for transforming you and your coaching, consulting or healing business.”  Copyright 2011.

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