For years, well decades really, I’ve wondered how to be grateful when “bad” things happen. As I become more and more aware that I don’t have a clue what’s “bad” and what’s “good,” it’s slowly dawning on me that this is the doorway.
As I don’t so quickly push away “bad” things, I’m giving myself the opportunity to be with them, to be with everything – “good” and “bad.”
As I allow myself to simply be with things, rather than categorizing and exiling the “bad,” then I’m way more relaxed.
Apparently labeling and banishing has taken a whole lotta energy.
As I’m accepting more and judging less, I breathe deeper and feel grateful for that additional oxygen. With more oxygen circulating throughout me, it occurs to me that anything I refuse to accept literally takes life away from me.
As I accept more and more, I have more and more access to life, all life. I get to experience the sweetness in each moment, whether it’s the sweetness of joy, the sweetness of heartbreak or one of the infinite varieties of sweetness.
I am there, in the moment. Fully alive, fully available, fully accepting. Now that’s something to be fully grateful for!
For those of you in the US, Happy Thanksgiving.
For all of us, may we be fully grateful for all of it!
As always, I’d love your thoughts and comments below.
(Excerpted from my forthcoming book, “Strong from Within: Simple perceptions and practices for transforming stress and overwhelm into clarity and purpose”)
2 thoughts on “Finally Coming to Know How to Be Grateful for All”
Ken, I’m beginning to hear the voice in my head when it says, “this is unacceptable” or something like that. It’s an immediate message to accept whatever I’m feeling and that tends to dissolve the polarized proclamation of “good” or “bad” about the situation.
I just realized that it fundamentally changes the whole focus – it’s no longer about “good” or “bad,” but instead about paying attention to staying with myself and my feelings rather than numbing, distancing or judging myself.
Beautiful! And now, may I actually live it!